SWANK ADVICE Don't ask because you won't like the answer

[koopkooper]

Don't ask because you won't like the answer

This week I received an email from a listener who wanted to know whether or not I make any money out of my radio show and asking me all manner of questions about how I make a buck. He wanted to know how he could achieve a similar way of life.

It always amazes me how people can often ask the most personal questions and are often surprised if you are short or angry at them.

You asked me a question about my personal and company finances, you ask me a question about how you can achieve what I have and you are surprised that I might be somewhat offended.

Now this person had just finished College so I can understand that there is often a massive difference on values when it comes to the generational gap and it certainly makes me wonder how this person will get through life when he starts to ask his boss questions like this in the corporate.

Time after time at parties and functions I have been horrified by what people determine good and stimulating conversation. Religion, Politics and money are massive social taboos and I can think of about another twenty off the top of my head. You can actually avoid all the taboos and still. Have stimulating conversation without having to dumb it down to nothingness.
If you do stray into those areas that are likely to offend or embarrass then simply back out and move onto something else. All those involved in the conversation will be pleased that you did.

There are some things you just never bring up.

Koop Kooper
www.cocktailnation.net

[Major Eaton]

So...how much money, do you make? Do you tithe it, or give it to Political causes?

[Blackthorn]

Don't ask because you won't like the answer

This week I received an email from a listener who wanted to know whether or not I make any money out of my radio show and asking me all manner of questions about how I make a buck. He wanted to know how he could achieve a similar way of life.

It always amazes me how people can often ask the most personal questions and are often surprised if you are short or angry at them.

You asked me a question about my personal and company finances, you ask me a question about how you can achieve what I have and you are surprised that I might be somewhat offended.

Now this person had just finished College so I can understand that there is often a massive difference on values when it comes to the generational gap and it certainly makes me wonder how this person will get through life when he starts to ask his boss questions like this in the corporate.

Time after time at parties and functions I have been horrified by what people determine good and stimulating conversation. Religion, Politics and money are massive social taboos and I can think of about another twenty off the top of my head. You can actually avoid all the taboos and still. Have stimulating conversation without having to dumb it down to nothingness.
If you do stray into those areas that are likely to offend or embarrass then simply back out and move onto something else. All those involved in the conversation will be pleased that you did.

There are some things you just never bring up.

Koop Kooper
http://www.cocktailnation.net

Wow, sounds like *somebody* needs a hug.

[Cousi]

I can agree with KoopKooper actually. There are many times when someone just asks the wrong question, or gets too personal too quick. There is no sense of proper decorum lately.

[Eric Renderking Fisk]

I have to echo Cousi and agree with Koop. There have been a lot of people who have asked me to help them with their own forum only to try and strip this forum of members. Anyone remember "SF News Hound?"

There are a lot of people out there who want us to take all the risk, experiment, invest our time and money and learn from our mistakes only to swoop in and benefit from our own success. I don't post on other peoples new forums anymore for that reason - if you want to participate and manage a table don't hesitate to ask but I'm not in a position to devote my time to someone else's site any more.

[MacFett]

I can agree with KoopKooper actually. There are many times when someone just asks the wrong question, or gets too personal too quick. There is no sense of proper decorum lately.

So starting off a conversation with "Do you think Deep Space Nine is better than Next Generation" would be better than jumping to financial questions?


I found a nerve Ren... I'm going to play with this one for a while.

[Eric Renderking Fisk]

AAAAHHHH! IT BURNS! IT BURNS!